I don’t know about you, but this whole mindset thing can feel like hard work. You have to be extremely vigilant in filtering out the crap you tell yourself and you also have to work at it every single day.
Even the most well adjusted and positive people I know, tell me that they have only achieved this level of zen after years of practice - and they were quick to point out that they hone their practice every day.
In my bid to be more consistently present and balanced, especially as I build this business, I have become so aware of how much I worry about things – some of which haven’t even happened yet (and may never happen)!
Now, I know I am not alone in this.
If like me, you find yourself spending a disproportionate amount of time worrying about things that could happen, then try this tip that has proven really effective for me in combating the insidious “what if” vortex.
At first it may sound like an odd idea, but this isn't new. I was reminded of this technique listening to a great podcast – Masters of Scale. The premise is that many of us worry endlessly about the things that may never happen, and work ourselves into a frenzy as a result. This exercise forces us to break that loop and face our fears.
Here’s what to do:
1. Deliberately visualise the absolute worst that could happen in the situation you are imagining;
2. Now spend some time considering the absolute best case scenario;
3. Finally, write down the most likely scenario that will play out.
By deliberately thinking about this (as opposed to constant subconscious worrying) you actually start to take control of whatever your fear is. Often the ‘worst case’ that is
lurking in our subconscious isn’t actually that bad, and as soon as we name it, we can start to come up with strategies to mitigate that scenario.
Just as important, by considering the best case that could happen, you stop only thinking about the negative and start to consider the positives. Contemplating the most likely scenario allows you to gain some perspective on what probably will happen.
So next time you find yourself caught in a loop of endless worrying about something that may or may not happen - be aware of it, stop yourself, and do (or revisit) this exercise.
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